Some Tidbits About the Islamic Prophet’s Wives and Concubines

November 8, 2009 at 12:05 am | Posted in Women in Islam | Leave a comment
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A relative, concerned I’m going to hell, sent me an Arabic presentation in which I read the usual platitudes and excuses for why a holy man would have so many women during his lifetime. He asked me to consider the presentation with an ‘open mind’.

I provided responses to him, and I am sharing here.

Many Muslims will be shocked over what I will write now. But these facts are irrefutable and are backed by Islamic sources.

May I ask what difference it will make if I responded to this? Even if I showed that he had the most evil intentions, Muslims will tell me, “It’s okay, he’s a prophet of god and he can do what he wants. It is not for us to decide what’s good or bad.”

To a Muslim, I am ‘open minded’ if I agree with Islamic views. If not then I am ‘dumb, deaf and blind’ – summun bukmun 3umyun [Quran 2:18]. If I agree I am smart. If I disagree I am brainwashed and stupid and deserve to die.

How can a Muslim think with an open mind when he is told that if he changes his religion, he will die? Why would confident Muslims do it? Do math teachers kill students who say 1 + 1 = 3, or just laugh at them?

It is pointless and a waste of time.

I decided later to respond briefly:

In short:

– I will not judge a leader by when he was weak, but when he was in power. So his relationship with Khadija is irrelevant. It can also be interpreted in other ways. For example, she was very wealthy and Muhammad never worked when he married her – he was just dwelling in the caves. So we can also say he just took advantage of her. Another theory is that he never had a true motherly figure in his life. Remember he was dumped in the desert as a child to be taken care of by murdi’aat [wet nurses] – and his mother passed away when he was a child. So he may have married an older woman for a motherly relation. Another theory is that Khadija was a codependent and he was a narcissist. But who cares what one does when he was not in power?

– Sawda is an interesting story. Yes she was old. But he wanted to divorce her. She said she wanted to stay and begged. so he agreed on one condition: She give up her sex nights for Aisha. This is what Al Nisaa v 128 was referring to:

وَإِنِ ٱمۡرَأَةٌ خَافَتۡ مِنۢ بَعۡلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوۡ إِعۡرَاضً۬ا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيۡہِمَآ أَن يُصۡلِحَا بَيۡنَہُمَا صُلۡحً۬اۚ وَٱلصُّلۡحُ خَيۡرٌ۬ۗ وَأُحۡضِرَتِ ٱلۡأَنفُسُ ٱلشُّحَّۚ وَإِن تُحۡسِنُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعۡمَلُونَ خَبِيرً۬ا (١٢٨)

[And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them – and settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if you do good and fear Allah – then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.” – Quran 4:128]

– I don’t know what to say about Aisha. I already sent you hadiths showing she was clearly shocked by Muhammad’s first time and she was not baaligha [had not reached puberty]. Repeat rape victims develop Stockholm syndrome and so can end up standing by the side of their rapists. So it may be true that she remained his wife and seemed ok with the whole thing.

– Hafsa was young. He married her in her early twenties. Interestingly, he once tricked her and had her leave her house so he can sleep with Mariya in her bed. When she found out, he promised to never do it again if she did not tell any of his wives. She did tell them and a biiiiiig fight happened with them. There is a lot of interesting drama when trying to balance with 12 women.

The only way the fight was resolved was through new verses in Al Tahreem:

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ لِمَ تُحَرِّمُ مَآ أَحَلَّ ٱللَّهُ لَكَۖ تَبۡتَغِى مَرۡضَاتَ أَزۡوَٲجِكَۚ وَٱللَّهُ غَفُورٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬ (١) قَدۡ فَرَضَ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمۡ تَحِلَّةَ أَيۡمَـٰنِكُمۡۚ وَٱللَّهُ مَوۡلَٮٰكُمۡۖ وَهُوَ ٱلۡعَلِيمُ ٱلۡحَكِيمُ (٢) وَإِذۡ أَسَرَّ ٱلنَّبِىُّ إِلَىٰ بَعۡضِ أَزۡوَٲجِهِۦ حَدِيثً۬ا فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَتۡ بِهِۦ وَأَظۡهَرَهُ ٱللَّهُ عَلَيۡهِ عَرَّفَ بَعۡضَهُ ۥ وَأَعۡرَضَ عَنۢ بَعۡضٍ۬ۖ فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَهَا بِهِۦ قَالَتۡ مَنۡ أَنۢبَأَكَ هَـٰذَاۖ قَالَ نَبَّأَنِىَ ٱلۡعَلِيمُ ٱلۡخَبِيرُ (٣) إِن تَتُوبَآ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ فَقَدۡ صَغَتۡ قُلُوبُكُمَاۖ وَإِن تَظَـٰهَرَا عَلَيۡهِ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ هُوَ مَوۡلَٮٰهُ وَجِبۡرِيلُ وَصَـٰلِحُ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَۖ وَٱلۡمَلَـٰٓٮِٕڪَةُ بَعۡدَ ذَٲلِكَ ظَهِيرٌ (٤) عَسَىٰ رَبُّهُ ۥۤ إِن طَلَّقَكُنَّ أَن يُبۡدِلَهُ ۥۤ أَزۡوَٲجًا خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنكُنَّ مُسۡلِمَـٰتٍ۬ مُّؤۡمِنَـٰتٍ۬ قَـٰنِتَـٰتٍ۬ تَـٰٓٮِٕبَـٰتٍ عَـٰبِدَٲتٍ۬ سَـٰٓٮِٕحَـٰتٍ۬ ثَيِّبَـٰتٍ۬ وَأَبۡكَارً۬ا (٥)

[“O Prophet! Why holdest thou to be forbidden that which Allah has made lawful to thee? Thou seekest to please thy consorts. But Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Allah has already ordained for you, (O men), the dissolution of your oaths (in some cases): and Allah is your Protector, and He is Full of Knowledge and Wisdom. When the Prophet disclosed a matter in confidence to one of his consorts, and she then divulged it (to another), and Allah made it known to him, he confirmed part thereof and repudiated a part. Then when he told her thereof, she said, “Who told thee this? “He said, “He told me Who knows and is well-acquainted (with all things).” If ye two turn in repentance to Him, your hearts are indeed so inclined; But if ye back up each other against him, truly Allah is his Protector, and Gabriel, and (every) righteous one among those who believe,- and furthermore, the angels – will back (him) up. It may be, if he divorced you (all), that Allah will give him in exchange consorts better than you,- who submit (their wills), who believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in repentance, who worship (in humility), who travel (for Faith) and fast,- previously married or virgins.” Quran 66:1-5]

– Zaynab bint Jahsh was the wife of his adopted son. Technically, she was his daughter in law. He once saw her undressed and had sexual feelings toward her. So Zayd felt embarrassed and divorced her for him to marry her.

– Juwairiyah was 20 when he married her after he had killed her husband. What woman in her right mind would have wanted to marry her husband’s killer?

– Mariyah the Copt was a slave woman – a concubine. (In fact if you examine his relationship with her, you will know she had a boyfriend and that Ibrahim was likely not Muhammad’s son – he had all these wives all his life and he could not have a baby except from his slave woman? This explains why he was saying women are ungrateful when he was burying his ‘son’. He’s angry she slept with someone else.)

– I told you about Safiyya. She was only 17 and he was more than 40 years older than her. He had killed her father and burned her husband’s chest and then killed him. He took over her entire tribe. We Muslims are very proud of this and we keep saying, that ‘khaybar khaybar ya yahood, jaishu muhammad sawfa ya3ood’. [“Khaybar Khaybar O Jews, the army of Muhammad shall return.”‘]

Safiya was actually at first taken by another man, but Muhammad covered her up to indicate she is his.

Would it make sense to you that a 17 year old woman would marry a 60 year old Israeli who raided their home, killed the men, stole their money, and took her sisters away as mulk al yameen [right hand posessions]? Where is the Muslim’s ‘open mind’ about all this? Or are we only good at blaming everyone else?

– Rayhana was a slave girl – in fact mulk al yameen [right hand posession]. She was taken after he butchered her tribe – Quraytha.


The Wall Street Journal: You Still Can’t Write About Muhammad

August 23, 2008 at 4:17 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment
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The Wall Street Journal has an interesting opinion piece on how liberal academia is preventing even somewhat fictitious novels about Islam to be published in the United States: You Still Can’t Write About Muhammad.


Starting in 2002, Spokane, Wash., journalist Sherry Jones toiled weekends on a racy historical novel about Aisha, the young wife of the prophet Muhammad. Ms. Jones learned Arabic, studied scholarly works about Aisha’s life, and came to admire her protagonist as a woman of courage. When Random House bought her novel last year in a $100,000, two-book deal, she was ecstatic. This past spring, she began plans for an eight-city book tour after the Aug. 12 publication date of “The Jewel of Medina” — a tale of lust, love and intrigue in the prophet’s harem.


It’s not going to happen: In May, Random House abruptly called off publication of the book. The series of events that torpedoed this novel are a window into how quickly fear stunts intelligent discourse about the Muslim world.




This time, the instigator of the trouble wasn’t a radical Muslim cleric, but an American academic. In April, looking for endorsements, Random House sent galleys to writers and scholars, including Denise Spellberg, an associate professor of Islamic history at the University of Texas in Austin. Ms. Jones put her on the list because she read Ms. Spellberg’s book, “Politics, Gender, and the Islamic Past: The Legacy of ‘A’isha Bint Abi Bakr.”



In an interview, Ms. Spellberg told me the novel is a “very ugly, stupid piece of work.” The novel, for example, includes a scene on the night when Muhammad consummated his marriage with Aisha: “the pain of consummation soon melted away. Muhammad was so gentle. I hardly felt the scorpion’s sting. To be in his arms, skin to skin, was the bliss I had longed for all my life.” Says Ms. Spellberg: “I walked through a metal detector to see ‘Last Temptation of Christ,'” the controversial 1980s film adaptation of a novel that depicted a relationship between Jesus and Mary Magdalene. “I don’t have a problem with historical fiction. I do have a problem with the deliberate misinterpretation of history. You can’t play with a sacred history and turn it into soft core pornography.”



This paragraph begs me to raise a number of remarks:


1. Isn’t it hypocritical that Ms. Spellberg doesn’t mind watching films depicting Jesus in a manner offensive to Christians, and yet minds a novel on Islam?


2. “I don’t have a problem with historical fiction. I do have a problem with the deliberate misinterpretation of history.”


Fiction is a distortion from reality. So her two statements here contradict each other.


And to set the record straight, there is nothing fictional about Muhammad raping Aisha when she was nine years old, demonstrated by a large number of Sahih (authentic) hadiths like these:


Sahih Muslim: ‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house when I was nine years old.


(The novel sets Aisha’s age of consummation to be 14, though.)


3. “You can’t play with a sacred history and turn it into soft core pornography.” Muhammad and his companions did not mind talking about his sexual adventures with his harems, so what’s the problem with that?


Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 6, Number 298:

Narrated ‘Aisha:

The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot while we were Junub. During the menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and used to fondle me. While in Itikaf, he used to bring his head near me and I would wash it while I used to be in my periods (menses).



Bukhari Vol.1 Book.6, Number.299
‘Aisha said: “Whenever Allah’s Apostle wanted to fondle anyone of us during her periods (menses), he used to order her to put on an Izar (dress worn below the waist) and start fondling her.” ‘Aisha added, “None of you could control his sexual desires as the Prophet could.”


Bukhari Vol.7 Book.62 Number.6
Narrated Anas: The Prophet used to go round (have sexual relations with) all his wives in one night, and he had nine wives.


Bukhari Volume 7, Book 71, Number 660:
Narrated Aisha:
Magic was worked on Allah’s Apostle so that he used to think that he had sexual relations with his wives while he actually had not (Sufyan said: That is the hardest kind of magic as it has such an effect).  



Sahih Muslim, Book 8, Number 3460:

Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to me: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: Messenger of Allah, with one who was previously married, whereupon he said: Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you could sport with her and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you?


Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 5, Number 268

Narrated Qatada:

Anas bin Malik said, “The Prophet used to visit all his wives in a round, during the day and night and they were eleven in number.” I asked Anas, “Had the Prophet the strength for it?” Anas replied, “We used to say that the Prophet was given the strength of thirty (men).” And Sa’id said on the authority of Qatada that Anas had told him about nine wives only (not eleven).


Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 5, Number 270:

Narrated Muhammad bin Al-Muntathir:

on the authority of his father that he had asked ‘Aisha about the saying of Ibn ‘Umar(i.e. he did not like to be a Muhrim while the smell of scent was still coming from his body). ‘Aisha said, “I scented Allah’s Apostle and he went round (had sexual intercourse with) all his wives, and in the morning he was Muhrim (after taking a bath).”


The opinion pieces continues:

“She thinks there is a very real possibility of major danger for the building and staff and widespread violence,” Ms. Garrett wrote. “Denise says it is ‘a declaration of war . . . explosive stuff . . . a national security issue.’ Thinks it will be far more controversial than the satanic verses and the Danish cartoons. Does not know if the author and Ballantine folks are clueless or calculating, but thinks the book should be withdrawn ASAP.” (“The Jewel of Medina” was to be published by Random House’s Ballantine Books.) That day, the email spread like wildfire through Random House, which also received a letter from Ms. Spellberg and her attorney, saying she would sue the publisher if her name was associated with the novel. On May 2, a Ballantine editor told Ms. Jones’s agent the company decided to possibly postpone publication of the book.


On a May 21 conference call, Random House executive Elizabeth McGuire told the author and her agent that the publishing house had decided to indefinitely postpone publication of the novel for “fear of a possible terrorist threat from extremist Muslims” and concern for “the safety and security of the Random House building and employees.”


This is not the first time publishers of books on the embarrassing aspects of Islam face pressure against their work. However, this case is unique because the dhimmi publisher had not even faced any public pressure from Muslims to cave into in the first place. To my knowledge, the publisher has not received any


This is an indication that Muslim terrorist tactics have worked on some dhimmis. Their violent reaction to any novel on Islam, any criticism of Islam, and any silly cartoon on Muhammad, has successfully made some publishers think twice before allowing anything about Islam to be placed on paper. It’s an extremely unfortunate reality that, even in America, we have dhimmis who are allowing Muslims to censor others.


The irony is that, while Ms. Spellberg attempted to stifle Ms Jones’ book through fearmongering, Ms. Jones is getting so much publicity on the matter that she will likely find another publisher easily.


Sherry Jones had a blog here this month, but it’s no longer there. Clueless as to why.


(By the way, be sure not to do your business with Random House.)

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